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My Box of Quotes

Call me crazy, but I think everyone should have a stash of quotes to start their day. Brief words of wisdom from those who came before us or are living in our time can change your attitude, make you smile, and start your day off on the right foot. You can find quotes just about anywhere—calendars, coffee mugs, books, t-shirts, and so on.

I have a box of quotes called “Crush Your Goals.” Inside the box are 40 affirmation cards. I like to go through them and choose one to put by my desk while I am job hunting, writing, or just catching my breath. Sometimes, I switch them out every day. Often, I leave a quote there for the week. However I’m feeling or whatever situation I find myself in, I can find a card in that box encouraging me to just keep going. Here are some examples.

I read this one when I have writer’s block.

“It’s amazing what we can do if we simply refuse to give up.” – Octavia Butler

 

I read this one yesterday after receiving a rejection letter from a job I was interested in.

“Please think of the things in your life that you are proud of, that fulfill you, that make you happy and write them down somewhere, and look at that list every time you feel that you are failing” – Jameela Jamil

 

And when the thought of starting something new overwhelms me…

“I know how it looks. But just start. Nothing is insurmountable.” – Lin-Manuel Miranda

What quotes inspire you? Let me know in the comments.

XO,
Elisa

Book Confessions

Let’s get right to it, shall we?

Confession #1: I went shopping for a book by myself

The book haul from Barnes and Noble

I should never be left alone in a bookstore with a credit card and no chaperone. But yesterday, I went with good intentions for a specific purpose—to buy my daughter a birthday present. There is a particular book I want to purchase for her that was just published in paperback. I planned to find the book and go straight to the cashier. I promised myself not to look at or even pick up any other books along the way.

Well, things didn’t go quite as planned. I was greeted at the door with several signs that read “50% off hardback books.”

Shit.

But I kept walking past those tables and searched through the stacks. I couldn’t find that damn book for her anywhere. I looked in the social sciences, psychology, self-help, and essay collection sections. Yes, I could have asked the bookseller for their assistance, but what fun would that be?

After 30 minutes of looking, I worked my way back to the front of the store to leave. I passed by those signs again and of course, I looked. And, I may have accidentally come upon a few titles on sale that I would up buying. Sigh.

Also, did I mention I was shopping at a Barnes & Noble instead of an indie bookstore? In almost every book review I write, I implore all of you to support your local independent booksellers. They need our support for their own survival, and that’s no exaggeration.

And then, I caved.

I texted my good friend and frequent bookstore chaperone, Janis, to fess up to crime. I asked her, “Am I a fraud?!” She forgave me for my transgression and assured me that I wasn’t an imposter.

“You are a person who loves a good sale. I would never fault someone for that!”

Janis is such a good friend in many ways, especially when I need to justify my book-spending habits.

Confession #2: I’m cheating on my books.

After my busy December reading eight books to reach my Goodreads goal, I wanted to start the year off with something easy. My friend, Meryl, told me about “Things You Save in A Fire.” It’s definitely a good story, but the protagonist is pretty grumpy, and I was getting a little annoyed at her and how she was treating her mother. I’m only eight chapters in, and she seems like the kind of character who turns her life around and gets much happier. Or, she gets laid, who knows… But I had to put this book down for now.

So, I switched to nonfiction and am now reading “The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs.” I love this self-help book and will likely finish it tonight. And then, I’ll go back to the novel.

But then the library texted me to say actor, author, and icon Henry Winkler is waiting for me at the pick-up window. The Fonz (or, more accurately, his best-selling memoir) is at the library. I’ve had it on hold for a while because I’ve been so excited to read his book. It is only 230 pages so I can sneak it in, right? Shh…don’t tell my other books.

As an aside, I once wrote a piece about the books I already own sitting on the shelf talking shit about me. They were jealous of the chosen books in my hands and sat silently protesting with no real plan or method of retribution. It was quite creative, but now I think they are all staring at me and seething. Sweet dreams, Elisa!

ANYWAY…

Confession #3: My Kindle Got Lonely

I told my writing coach, Rachel, I wanted to review craft books for her blog. I thought this would be a good way to produce new content for her website and social media pages. And, as a writer, I’d find some new sources of inspiration as well. She suggested I start with the gold standard of writing, “Becoming a Writer” by Dorothea Brande. So, I downloaded it for 99 cents on my Kindle.

And then, I downloaded two more books.

I know. I’M OUT OF CONTROL!

But that’s it. I’m done now. The shopping spree is over, except for one small problem.

I still need to buy that book for my daughter.

XO,

Elisa

Extroverted at Home

“Chloe, do you want to go for a walk?”

Chloe looks at me with big eyes and follows me to the front door. Her tail is wagging with excitement.

Chloe, my toy poodle, is the only one home with me during the day. She isn’t much of a conversationalist but always good company.

As an extrovert living at and working from home, I try to get out daily to be people. But on some days when I want to stay indoors, I talk to Chloe about work and books and so forth. After all, she is people to us.

But it’s not the same. And yes, I know the difference. 🙂

Yesterday, I went to a local networking event called Coffee and Conversation. Two things I love the most!

On the enthusiasm meter between feeling meh and being super-excited, my scale read SIGN ME UP!

I didn’t know who would attend, but I didn’t care. I’ve always been good at networking events. I would make new friends; I mean business contacts. When I got there, I was happy to see people I knew. It’s nice to chat with friends first. Friends who don’t care if you had your first cup of coffee yet or not. (I hadn’t).

One friend hugged me, and we chatted about many things, especially jigsaw puzzles (another favorite pastime of mine that we share). I huddled beside my other friend who showed me photos from her son’s wedding. Everything looked beautiful, and I told her so.

And then, the networking officially began. The formal part of the event gives everyone the opportunity to give a 30-second elevator speech. After my spiel, one attendee made a beeline to me, and we talked for a while about her nonprofit. We had a lot in common, and my heart did an internal happy dance.

And then she gave me a hug. She had no idea how much I needed another hug. We are having breakfast next week.

I didn’t really want to leave because there was more people to talk to. However, the weather was getting nasty outside, and I had a few calls to make at home. And Chloe missed me. Plus, everyone else needed to get back to work.

Do I sound needy? I hope not. I do enjoy working from home. When I’m busy, the hours fly by, and I don’t feel the need to go anywhere. But on quiet days, it’s a different story. I think about those water cooler moments where I used to socialize with colleagues while we made our breakfast or grab a doughnut from the break room. While Zoom boxes get the job done, it’s not like sitting in cubicles overhearing the latest gossip and interrupting each other’s conversations.

Weird. I used to hate the interruptions, and sometimes, I actually look forward to them. Because above all, it’s the connections I miss the most. And because, you know…people.

And people who need people are the luckiest people in the world.

Author’s Note: I had no idea how to end this, so I chose Barbra Streisand. 

Are you an extrovert working from home? Or are you an introvert that is thankful COVID changed the way we all work now? Tell me in the comments.

XO,

Elisa

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