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Shop Talk and A Big Splurge

When I am with other writers, we can easily fall into conversations that may bore other people to tears.

First person vs. third person

Active vs. passive voice

Who vs. whom

And don’t even get us started on em dashes vs. AI. We could be here all night!  (Ok here it is the truth—human beings use em dashes. They are not a dead giveaway that something is written by Chat GPT.)

Thank you for your attention to this matter. 😊

Are you asleep yet? I’m just getting started.

What is your favorite book about writing?

Easy – Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott

What is your preferred brand of pen?

Writers often have a favorite brand, make, and model of pen. Mine is the Pentel R.S.V.P Ballpoint Pen in fine point, preferably blue ink. My second favorite pen is the official swag item for Red Pen Resources, my writing business. They are really nice. Let me know if you want one.

What have you splurged on recently that no one else would understand?

Recently, I stopped in a local stationery shop and had an in-depth conversation with the manager about the Blackwing pencils. He was quite knowledgeable and told me about other customers who rave about them. But I didn’t have to take his word for it. He had several samples on full display complete with clean, crisp sheets of white paper to test drive them. I had heard about these fancy pencils before, but never tried them for myself. How could I resist?

But, a pencil is a pencil, right? What is the big deal?

But, I was wrong. Oh baby was I wrong.

Blackwing pencils are the chef’s kiss of luxury pencils—made in Japan with premium graphite and wood to create the perfect writing instrument. Beautiful craftsmanship with an iconic look and a comfortable grip. It also has its own pencil sharpener and replaceable erasers, sold separately, of course. But, I didn’t get carried away.

I spent about 15 minutes scribbling these beauties on the notepad, enjoying the experience and made a decision. No Dixon Ticonderoga #2 pencils from grade school for me. I splurged on a set of Blackwing Pearl pencils, and I’m not even sorry.

My Advice

First, feel free to use em dashes.

Second, buy the fancy pencils (or whatever tool in your line of work that is worth the splurge).

Finally, find a community of people who get why you love what you do and are willing to read about it to the end of the blog post. 😉

What have you splurged on for yourself lately? Are you willing to share in the comments?

XO

Elisa

2026: Let’s Do This!

2026 Happy New Year ImageDid you pick a word of the year for 2026? I have in the past, but then I realized that every word I chose, I forgot about almost instantly. This year, I’m doing something different.

I chose a theme. A mantra. Something that will guide my decisions and clarify what to prioritize. Because the way we spend our time defines who we are.

And that’s my theme for 2026: Time is a gift that is not to be wasted.

This means:
👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Spending quality time with family and friends.
💻 Focusing on serving my clients with excellence and building my business with clarity and intention.
🤝 Staying connected to (and expanding) my network, and cultivating those relationships
📅 Making time for new opportunities that align with my values and goals. And saying no to things that I think I HAVE TO attend.
❤️ Carving out time for self-care and healthy choices (e.g., better eating habits, food choices, and more walks around the neighborhood)
✍ Prioritizing writing and reading over doom scrolling and watching reels for hours on end.

Funny story about the last one… While enjoying the festive Jewish Christmas meal of Chinese food, I received the following fortune:

“Your hobby will bring balance and perspective to your life.”

To that end, I will attempt another Ultimate Blog Challenge (UBC), writing 31 blog posts in 31 days. Follow along with me as I try to spend my time wisely, read, write, and exercise more, and ring in the new year with a new sense of purpose.

And here is hoping this year’s theme will allow me to go to bed every night knowing my day was well spent.

What is your word or theme for 2026?

XO,
Elisa

It’s A Small World Revisited 🎶

Disclaimer: I apologize for the earworm you may endure as a result of this blog post. Proceed with caution. 😉

Have you ever met someone and been pleasantly surprised to discover an unlikely connection between the two of you? It could have been due to a mutual acquaintance (How do you know so-and-so?). Or someone seeing your maiden name on Facebook and realizing you were friends at summer camp years ago? Or you may notice someone in line at Disney World wearing a t-shirt in support of your favorite football team. For those of us who love the Philadelphia Eagles, a simple “Go Birds!” shout across the crowd can turn into an entire conversation. And what do you say when you have these encounters? Wow! Small world!

This has happened to me on several random occasions, like:

  • The woman I started physical therapy with who belongs to my synagogue. (In Judaism, we refer to this “Jewish geography.”)
  • Someone in my writing workshop who also has a close family member with Parkinson’s Disease.
  • The experienced traveler sitting next to me on a long flight offering words of reassurance because I hate turbulence.
  • A stranger who approaches me in the mall, introduces herself, and reminds me that we briefly met at a networking event.
  • The frustrated lady at the DMV who I decided to strike up a conversation with because I forgot to bring a book with me. I needed a way to pass the time and she was equally annoyed because no one knows WTH they are doing in that place!  🤬

Sorry…I digress.

The beauty of these encounters is that you meet all kinds of people from different backgrounds and cultures. Nowadays, there are people who appear to be afraid of these interactions. Many leaders in our current administration want to push people away instead of welcoming them and their differences with open arms. With all of the political strife happening in the world today, I crave the kindness of strangers and their willingness to share their stories.

As some of you may know, my favorite ride at Disney World as a kid was “It’s a Small World .” When I was little, I loved cruising through scenic rooms and watching the dancing dolls dressed in traditional costumes sing the same iconic song. I drove my family crazy asking to ride it over and over again. This past May, I boarded the boat and enjoyed the same ride, but secretly wished the rooms weren’t so segregated. Each one represents different continents and the animatronic animals and landmarks that are found there. But how nice would it be to sail into a room that celebrates all of the world’s diversity?

As far as I know, Disney has no current plans (or desire) to update the ride in this way, and that’s okay because they did something even more magical instead.

It was recently announced that the ride’s finale would play a new verse of the song. The son of the original songwriter, Richard Sherman, said the new verse is “intended to celebrate that there’s more that unites us than divides us.” To me, including this beautiful verse serves as a reminder that music is a universal language that can evoke the connection we may be seeking.

Here are the words in the final verse. Feel free to sing along with me.

Mother Earth unites us in heart and mind
And the love we give makes us humankind
Through our vast, wondrous land
When we stand hand in hand
It’s a small world after all.

XO,
Elisa

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