March 2023 Book Report

This is not a good time to be in a reading slump, but I find myself without the energy to start a new book right now. It’s not because I have nothing to read. On the contrary, I have about 200 titles divided between my bookshelves, my Audible library, and my e-reader, just waiting for me to pick one. Apparently, what I lack in decision-making, I make up in book buying! Don’t worry, I didn’t buy them all at once. But now I find myself with too many titles to choose from.

Am I in the mood for a memoir or a mystery? I couldn’t tell you.

All is not lost, and I’m not a quitter-especially when it comes to reading. I’ve already read eight books this year, which is a decent amount. I’m still two books behind on reaching my Goodreads goal of 40 titles by the end of the year, which means I need to snap out of it soon. But I know myself. I’ll catch up when the weather gets nicer, and when my job is a little less busy, and when I finally decide on the next book I want to read.

So without further ado, here are the four books I read in March.

The Golden Spoon by Jessa Maxwell

I’ve heard that after you read a good book, you can develop a bit of a hangover—a book hangover. This might be part of what is happening right now because The Golden Spoon did not disappoint. Set in a baking show competition, six contestants travel to a remote location to appear on Bake Week and win a coveted trophy—The Golden Spoon. Each contestant has their own backstory and reasons for wanting to be there. The competition starts off innocently enough, but by day three, someone is murdered, and everyone is considered a suspect. This “whodunnit” story was a lot of fun to read. Both the cast of characters and the storyline moved along at a quick pace, and I couldn’t put it down. I listened to this book on Audible which featured a bunch of voiceover actors. I gave it four stars. Bon Appetit!

Waxing On: The Karate Kid and Me by Ralph Macchio

After listening to a podcast featuring Ralph Macchio, I couldn’t wait to read his memoir. His poster had a permanent place on the wall of my childhood bedroom, right next to the other “Outsiders” Rob Lowe and Tom Cruise. His puppy dog eyes reached into my 13-year-old soul and stole my heart. On the other hand, his writing left a lot to be desired.

The Karate Kid is one of my favorite 80s movies. There is a clear chemistry between the actors that is hard to achieve. The behind-the-scenes stories were fun to read to a point. But the endless comparisons between the movie and his tv show Cobra Kai annoyed me. I don’t watch a ton of television because, supposedly, I’d rather be reading. And since I haven’t watched Cobra Kai, some of his stories were lost on me. Sadly, the book felt like a promotional tool instead of a memoir. I would have liked to read about his childhood, his family life, his struggles with fame (although he managed to avoid the alcohol and drugs so prominent in that era), and any other movie or show he has been in. What about the Outsiders? Maybe a few chapters on My Cousin Vinny. Very few pages were dedicated to these classic movies.

Even if I watched Cobra Kai and wanted to learn more about it, I’m not sure I would read his book again. He wrote the book as if in conversation with me. His annoying interjections to let me know to “stay tuned for the next chapter” or “I’ll talk more about that later” needed to be edited out in favor of much smoother transitions. I gave this two stars.

Lucky Man by Michael J. Fox

Now this memoir is more like it! This was a re-read for me, and it is still one of my favorite 80s celebrity memoirs. Michael J. Fox is a gifted storyteller who shares everything from his childhood, family life, and personal battle with alcoholism and how he now copes with Parkinson’s disease. He also shared many stories about his work in both film and tv, including Family Ties, Spin City, and Back to the Future. He left nothing out and left me wanting more. Fortunately, he has written three other books that I have also enjoyed immensely. I can’t recommend it high enough – five stars.

Mary Jane by Jessica Anya Blau

One thing I’ve learned about myself as a reader is that I love plot-driven books. I don’t like stories that are slow to start, and not much happens except for this one. This story is a character study about a teenage girl who lives a sheltered life in 1970s Baltimore. Her innocence stems from a religious mother and an inattentive father. When she takes a summer nanny job for a different kind of family, she is exposed to a whole new and groovy lifestyle. And she digs it. I loved the nostalgia in this book, and the protagonist reminds me a lot of my younger self. You do have to suspend some sense of reality in this book, and the ending is a little hard to believe, but it worked for me – four stars.

I also DNF’ed (Did Not Finish) one book called “Winterland” by Rae Meadows. I decided to listen to this book about the world of competitive gymnastics in the Soviet Union. I remember watching the Olympics and the drama surrounding American vs. Russian gymnasts. Unfortunately, this is a character study that was going nowhere. I’ve listened to about a third of this book and asked some people in a private Facebook group whether this book was going to get any better. The answer was no. Bummer. On to the next one.

What have you been reading lately? Tell me in the comments! I need a few good book recommendations.

Save Me A Dance

The last time I danced with my Dad was two years ago at my nephew Tyler’s bar mitzvah. I never say no to a dance with him, and I love to watch him on the dance floor with others. Not just because he is a good dancer but because the joy he exudes when he dances is contagious. Seriously, if I could bottle it up and sell it, I’d be a millionaire a few times over.

He hasn’t let his Parkinson’s diagnosis slow him down. Dancing is a wonderful form of exercise for people with Parkinson’s disease (PD). It helps strengthen muscles and reinforces balance. It also stimulates the mind and keeps depression at bay which is common among those with PD.

It’s also a lot of fun.

I’m hoping for many more dances with Dad, so I’m taking six minutes today to shine a light on PD. April is Parkinson’s Awareness Month, and someone is diagnosed with it every six minutes in the U.S. Parkinson’s disease is the second most common neurological disease after Alzheimer’s disease. More than 10 million people worldwide live with Parkinson’s—including my Dad. He was officially diagnosed in 2011 but probably lived with it for years before that. The cause is largely unknown, but research points to a combination of genetics and environmental causes, like pesticides. Coincidentally, there are at least four other people who worked in the same building as my Dad who has or had Parkinson’s, so environmental causes could very well be a factor in his case.

PD is a complex disease to diagnose because many of the symptoms are similar to what happens as we age—walking slowly and shuffling, losing balance, cognitive difficulties, limb stiffness, tremors, and so on. But PD affects dopamine-producing neurons in a specific section of the brain. Dopamine is associated with movement, attention, memory, and learning, and low levels cause various issues. People are typically diagnosed later in life, but early onset is also possible. There are treatments—medication, physical therapy, etc. but so far, no cure.

Research is crucial to finding a cure. I am currently enrolled in the Parkinson’s Progression Markers Initiative, a comprehensive research study funded by the Michael J. Fox Foundation for Parkinson’s Research. I’m also considering genetic testing to see if I have one of the three genes that indicate a higher risk factor for Parkinson’s. It turns out that I have family members on both sides who have been diagnosed with PD, but having the gene doesn’t mean I will ever develop the disease.

Getting off of my soapbox and back to my Dad. He is doing well. He has a terrific support system of friends and family and loves to keep in touch with everyone. And while I see changes in him as the years go by, I know there is still a lot of dancing left for us to do.

If you have a loved one, who has been diagnosed with PD or just want to learn more about this progressive neurological disease, check out the #Take6forPD campaign.

Life Without A Manual 2023

YOU GUYS!

I FOUND IT!

LOOK!

I FOUND THE MANUAL!

FINALLY!

All of my questions have now been answered, and if whatever else comes my way, I have THE MANUAL I need to tell me exactly what I need to do and everything I need to know about life.

APRIL FOOL!

I wish! Wouldn’t it be nice to have that manual on one of my many bookshelves? A guide to tell me how to tackle everything on my to-do list and live my best life?

Nope. Sorry. 😉 ,

The only thing I realized today is how much I still need that elusive manual, and the reasons seem to change with every passing year. When I launched this blog, “Life Without A Manual,” several years ago, my kids were in middle school and high school. I needed a manual for parenting teenagers, and since the “What to Expect” book series ended in the toddler years, I knew I was screwed. Thankfully, blogging allowed me to share my experiences with you, and in return, you gave me all the advice and support I needed.

Now – eight years later – my kids are young adults. They are away at college and are starting their own lives. One is graduating next month. (YIKES!). The other is just starting out in his college career. They still need me but in very different ways than before. And now, I can focus on my roles as a wife, an empty nester, a dog mom, and a member of the sandwich generation. I have a full-time job, and I’m writing a book on the side. Life is just as busy as it was when the kids were living here, and while I love this stage, a manual would still be helpful.

For example, where does my time go? I’ve got a lot of priorities and not enough hours in the day to attend to all of them. There are some days when I feel incredibly productive and others where I can’t seem to get it together. And although I know it isn’t true, it feels like everyone else gets more done than me in the same amount of time each day. What is their secret?!

Another question I’d like to answer is what I want to do with this next phase of my life. There is so much I still want to see and accomplish, and now that I’m over 50, I hear the clock ticking. I’ve never been to Europe – except for Greece, where I went on my honeymoon. Even then, I don’t think we saw as much of it as we would have liked. 😉 I keep telling my husband that this is the decade to do it while we have our health and the means to do it. He agrees, so it’s just a matter of when. Time to start planning!

Finally, how can I stay as healthy as possible for as long as possible? I know there is no shortcut to good health, but I’d like to find more enjoyable ways to do it and have it become an integral part of my life and not feel like another job. I want to live long enough to see my kids succeed in their chosen fields. I’d also like to become a published author and work toward that daily. And should I be so blessed, I want to meet my grandchildren and have a relationship with them. I’m not sure if that’s possible, but I hope to figure it out.

So, until I find THE MANUAL that gives me all the answers, I’m here processing everything through my writing and sharing those experiences with you. Comments welcome. Join me, won’t you?

One last thing, if you are new here and would like to read the origin story behind my blog’s name, it’s a good one – click here.

XO,
Elisa

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