The Seatbelt Question

“Describe to me how you put on a seatbelt.”

I got this question at an otherwise uneventful job interview a few years ago. To this day, I have no idea what the person who asked me this was looking for. This certainly wasn’t on the list of common job questions to expect in an interview. Needless to say, I was not prepared.

I froze for a minute and decided that as a writer, I should just be as descriptive as possible. So, I gave what can only be described as an elaborate re-enactment of adjusting my seat and mirrors, sliding the belt across my chest and fastening it securely. And then, I told him how I sat in the driveway and patiently waited until my kids put their own seatbelts on and how after much protest from the back seat, I ended with something my father would say like “we aren’t going anywhere until you do as I say.”

I didn’t get the job. But, I don’t think it was because of that answer. He seemed thoroughly entertained by my story.

This question still haunts me. What else could I have possibly said about putting on a seatbelt? And what kind of twisted, psychological test was this that my interviewer was putting me through?

How would you have answered the question? And what is the strangest interview question you’ve ever heard? I’d love to hear them!

 

The Write Resources

It happens to the best writers. We sit down at the ideal time of day in the perfect setting to create something inspiring. Ready. Set. Go. Wait what? What do you mean you can’t think of anything to write? No problem! In order to avoid the dreaded writer’s block, I’ve armed myself with a plethora of resources for writing prompts, and now I’m offering them to you.

 

WordSmith Deck  – $15.95

I’ll start with my “in case of emergency” deck of cards. Pick a card. Any card. The questions are designed to clear your mind, jog your memory, or develop an idea. If you are ever staring at a blank journal page, these come in handy. Questions are divided into six different categories: Life. Self. Education. World. Relationships. And my favorite, Random. With prompts like “What in the world keeps you up at night?”, you will definitely find something that suits you.

Books

Which books? Prompt books to be exact. Here are a few of my favorites.

  • A Year of Writing Dangerously by Barbara Abercrombie
  • Writing is My Drink by Theo Pauline Nestor (LOVE HER!)
  • 642 Tiny Things to Write About
  • 300 Writing Prompts

With these handy books, I have over 1,000 ways to fight writer’s block.

Magazines

There are the typical writing magazines that I’m sure we writers all have buried in a pile that we can’t bear to throw away. Writer’s Digest. Poets & Writers. The Writer. No? Just me? Oh, okay. But, here’s another one you may not have thought of – O Magazine has mindful prompts all over her publication. Just check out the 3 pages of people who work on her publication. She always poses a question and the answers are entertaining. It makes me want to come up with an answer that no one else would think to write.

Children

If you have children or grandchildren, they are guaranteed to provide hours of material for your blog, book or stand up comedy routine. The only caveat is that once they learn to read and their friends follow you on Facebook, you must ask their permission. I speak from experience. The family drama that will surely ensue is not worth the likes.

Life in General

Look around. A conversation with a stranger or special moments you don’t want to ever forget are all writing prompts. Put down your phone and open your eyes to the world around you. You will be glad you did.

 

 

 

#JewishANDProud

“Do you think 9/11 happened because people are mad at Israel?” — A question posed to me by a co-worker after the attacks on the World Trade Center and the Pentagon.

 “You should go back to Cherry Hill, where you belong.”  — Overheard at a school board meeting during a heated discussion about blessing the graduating class in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.

These comments, and many others over the years, have attempted to challenge my Jewish identity. Am I an American first or a Jew first? For me, the answer has always been clear.

I was born in this country. I pledge allegiance to the flag. I celebrate Thanksgiving (you’d be surprised how many people ask me this). I love the fireworks display on Independence Day. I’m a baseball fan. A rock music enthusiast. A lover of s’mores and apple pie. I’m a proud American citizen.

And as an American, I’m grateful for the First Amendment, which gives us all freedom of religion. For me, that’s in a synagogue where I recite the Shema (pronounced Sheh-ma). While New Years’ Eve is December 31, it is also on Erev Rosh Hashanah, which comes in the fall. I fast on Yom Kippur and believe in asking the people in my life for forgiveness before I am permitted to ask G-d for his or hers. I light the menorah on Hanukkah and put it in my window to shine a light on the world. And my dining room table is extended into the living room for Passover Seder in the spring.

As a Jew, I’m proud to be a part of the beautiful melting pot that makes up this country. But, many of the decisions I make in my life are based on my values and life experiences.  So, without a doubt, I consider myself a Jewish American. And I’m proud of it.

Because my hometown didn’t have a large Jewish population, I was sometimes singled out and bullied for being different. Pennies were thrown at my feet in grade school. As a teenager, I washed swastikas from a synagogue’s walls and sidewalks leading up to the front doors.

But my identity never wavered.

When my sister graduated high school, we had to fight to be recognized as equal members of the community. Instead of wearing us down, it only made our congregation and my faith stronger. After I got married, I vowed to find a place to live where we wouldn’t have to fight, and our children would be accepted. Today, not only do we pass on those traditions and values to our children, but I’m so fortunate to live on a street where many faiths are represented. My kids have been invited to Diwali festivities and Easter egg hunts. We’ve hosted Hanukkah parties and invited everyone to their b’nai mitzvah where they celebrated our simcah with us.

My life will always reflect the pride I have in our country. But, my Judaism will always come first

So, what am I?

I’m an American.

Who am I?

#JewishANDProud

 

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