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Play Ball!

Now that the Super Bowl is over, there is only one thing left to say.

Pitchers and catchers report tomorrow! 

Baseball is in my blood. Phillies baseball, to be exact. I spent a good part of my childhood at “the Vet.” I’ve seen everything from big wins with walk-off homers to huge losses. I sat in the nosebleed seats with my dad and saw the Phillies beat the Braves in Game 6 of the 1993 playoffs. I even attended the perfect game pitched by the late Roy Halladay.

So when my husband was offered two spring training tickets from his uncle, he knew who to send on the trip to Clearwater, Florida. A few weeks later, my son, Andrew, and I were on our way.

Spring training was nothing short of amazing. It didn’t matter what team you were there to watch. All that was required was a love of baseball. And, as you can see from this photo, we were more than qualified.

I would make that trip again in a heartbeat. Watching pre-season baseball for the love of the game is like sitting in a classic baseball movie. Everyone is smiling and enjoying the warm weather. The players show their love for the fans by being generous with photos and autographs. But, what was most memorable about the trip was the time I spent with Andrew. There are so many wonderful memories with him. He loved the games, the pool, the hotel, and he still talks about the self-serve waffle maker station as if it was the best thing ever invented. He swam and played with his cousins, and in the evenings, we bought ice cream and walked and talked on the beach. We had a lot of laughs and enjoyed the mother-son bonding time over those few days.

He is more of an Eagles fan than a baseball fan now, but nothing can take away the memories this photo brings to mind – sitting in the stands together with our gloves at the ready waiting to catch a fly ball.

So in honor of baseball season starting up again, here are a few of my favorite baseball movie quotes.

“This field, this game, it’s a part of our past. It reminds us of all that once was good, and it could be again” – Field of Dreams.

“This is a very simple game. You hit the ball. You throw the ball. You catch the ball. Sometimes you win. Sometimes you lose. Sometimes it rains.” – Bull Durham.

“It’s supposed to be hard. If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. The hard… is what makes it great.” – A League of Their Own.

Play Ball!

Are You My Type?

At my age, I know myself pretty well; just don’t put a label on me because it won’t work. I’m a bit of a mutt when it comes to assigning myself to one particular category. This used to cause me a lot of stress and frustration as I deal with dueling personality traits. But now, I’ve accepted it for what it all adds up to – me.

 

A & B

I am somewhere between a Type A and Type B personality. I am an organized person. I like to be either early or on time when we go places. I set goals and obsess over articles about time management skills and productivity systems. And if that doesn’t clinch it, I have zero patience. Whoever said “patience is a virtue” did not have me in mind.

However, I am also Type B. I am creative and innovative. I would not describe myself as competitive by any means. I focus on the fun and not the scoreboard. I am flexible and mild-mannered (until I lose my patience and then all bets are off). I enjoy conversations with people that are reflective and meaningful. I am proud of the fact that I can be flexible and adaptable to situations when things take an unexpected turn.

SMART and SOFT

So, when it comes to setting goals for myself, both personalities come into play. In my career, I set SMART goals and stretch goals and often refer back to them to make sure I’m on the right track. When I sit down for a performance review, I want to say I accomplished or made progress with each of the goals I set out to do. All of this easily puts me in the Type A category.

As for losing weight, FitBit steps, and Goodreads goals, I’m much softer. Probably because, according to Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies quiz – I’m an Obliger. As I read more about this tendency, I see that it is the intersection of Type A and Type B personalities. I always want to put others before myself (Type B) and do what I can for them (Type A) to make them happy.

Myers-Briggs

As if to add insult to injury, I fluctuate between an ENFP and an ESFP type on the Myers-Briggs Personality test. The difference in that one letter is whether or not I get more excited about concepts and ideas or experiences and actions. Can’t I be both?

To Sum Up

This is all to say that I have a huge list of goals to tackle for 2021. In order to be successful, do I really need to pick a side? Maybe I’ll set a new goal to be a little less of an Obliger, and tap into my Type A traits while keeping what I love about being a solid Type B.

Hmm… I think I’m back to where I started.

How about you? What is your personality type?

College Daze

It’s been many years since college, and I still remember the path I walked from my dorm room through the Quad to Intro to Politics class. I wore either a plaid button-down shirt or the t-shirt from the concert I went to that weekend. I’d top off the look with some cutoff jeans, a row of bracelets dangling from my wrist, and a high ponytail with a matching scrunchie. If I close my eyes, I can see the white, nameless food truck on University Avenue where I would grab a greasy breakfast sandwich and a cup of coffee – even though my parents bought me a meal plan. And then, I head up the hill to class at Ruby Jones Hall.

I was thinking about this at 7:30 this morning while attending a Zoom meeting with Andrew’s guidance counselor about his college plans. I knew this moment was coming, but what mother is ever ready for this process to begin? Andrew is our youngest, and while I’ve been down this road before with our daughter, it isn’t any easier emotionally the second time around. In fact, while I was on the call, it occurred to me that his advisor probably wasn’t even born when I was in college. Still, I sat there to be educated in the COVID-19 SAT changes made this year (no essay section – YAY!), the magic of Naviance, and wishing all of this information was available to me when I was his age.

It is hard enough to come to terms with the fact that I have a daughter in college, and now we have to start searching for where Andrew will land next. I’m excited for both of them. Let’s face it – college is the best time of our lives as we try our hands at being adults while living out our childhood dreams of independence. Our daughter still calls three times a day, and am not complaining. I can only hope he will do the same.

When we ended our Zoom call, I thought about how college didn’t seem so long ago for me. And then, I looked in the mirror and saw that okay – maybe it has been that long. And then, this song popped into my head from the musical Avenue Q. I saw the show a few years after I graduated and this song was just as relevant now as back then. If you’ve seen the musical you know it…

I wish I could go back to college.
Life was so simple back then.
What would I give to go back and live
in a dorm with a meal plan again!
I wish I could go back to college.
In college, you know who you are.
You sit in the quad
and think, “Oh my God!
I am totally gonna go far!”
Click here to hear enjoy the whole song (warning – this is the NSFW version). If you need me, I’ll be looking at old photos from the good old days.

 

 

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