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Mid-January Book Report

New Book Reviews in 2024!


I’ve decided to do two book reports a month—one mid-month and again at the end. Last year, as I was writing these reviews, I found myself forgetting the storylines of the books I read earlier in the month. This could be due to brain fog, but more likely, I’m just easily distracted by shiny new titles. Does anyone else have this problem? Seriously, who remembers what they ate for lunch yesterday, let alone the plot of the book they read recently (but not that recently!)?

The other reason I’m going to write two posts a month is because I really want to read 50 books this year. To accomplish this goal, I need to finish at least four books a month. I know I’m a fairly fast and avid reader, so this is doable, even though it is a bit of a stretch. And if you are doing the math, I know that only amounts to 48 books. However, I can sneak a few extra titles in here and there. Some months, I may only read three, while others may read eight novels (see my December 2023 Book Report).

Without further ado, here are two book reviews to consider for your TBR pile.

The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs
by Laura Tremaine

The Live Council book coverAuthor and podcaster Laura Tremaine wrote an engaging book about making and keeping friends as adults and creating a sort of cabinet of go-to people you can rely on. She also talks about letting go of friends who no longer fit into your life, which is never easy but sometimes happens.

Her book promises to:

  • Create your own “life council” with the friends you already have
  • Understand the ten kinds of friends every woman needs–and how to find them
  • Learn how to evaluate your friendship circle for what’s working and what might need to change
  • Navigate tough conversations with friends
  • Get excited again about the possibility of new friendships

This is what the book promises, and IT DELIVERS!

As I was reading, I reflected on my friend groups and began to sort them in the categories Tremaine set forth. Some categories were easier than others. And for a few categories, I had no one specific in mind.

For instance, I have a friend I used to work with, and we were both mentally exhausted by the toxic leadership style where we were employed. We have been through hell together on a daily basis and survived it. And the best part is that we continue our friendship to this day, watching and helping each other grow from that shared experience and thrive. She is what the author referred to as my “battle buddy” —someone who has walked with you during a difficult time. There are nine other categories proposed by the author that aptly and accurately describe the friendships I have today. It was interesting to see where some seats need to be filled, and how other seats had more than one person who could sit there.

The Life Council is not only a book you will want on your shelves, but you may want to gift it to a friend or someone you love. I give this book four stars. For those of you who read my Book Confessions blog post, you now know this is the book I was planning on getting for my daughter for her birthday but couldn’t find. I’m ordering it online and sending it to her this week instead.

Being Henry: The Fonz…and Beyond
by Henry Winkler

I grew up on Happy Days and The Fonz. Tuesday nights were must-see TV in my house. The shows were funny, brilliantly written, and always entertaining and family-friendly. Henry Winkler plays such an iconic character, and it’s no wonder he was typecast after the show ended. However, he made the best of it with producer and director credits. And then, he has a comeback story with the movie Water Boy and the popular HBO series Barry, for which he won his first primetime Emmy.

I gave this book three stars because while the behind-the-scenes stories were fun to read, I wanted to know more about his battle with dyslexia and how he came to accept and work through it. I was also sad to learn he had a rough upbringing because he was raised by strict parents who doubted his intelligence and abilities. Back then, I’m not sure if dyslexia was as documented as it is today. Still, his parents could have been a lot nicer and more supportive. While discussing his dyslexia in any TV interview, he didn’t elaborate much more than what I already heard.

Also, this book won the Goodreads 2023 Best Humor Award. But let me say this: this is not a funny book. Henry Winkler writes about his anxiety as a result of his upbringing and dyslexia in a way that makes me feel sad for him. I can empathize with his situation, but I’m not laughing with him like other writers who have written on this topic.

Side Note: This is one of the reasons I don’t read reviews on Goodreads. It’s an online popularity contest. As a reader, I wonder why this book is in the humor category at all. The other choices were books written by actual comedians like Leslie Jones and Amber Ruffin or essay collections from professional writers with a keen sense of humor. My only explanation is that whoever was in charge of this category didn’t read this book. However, if the book were in the memoir category, he might have had a shot. However, he would have gone up against Brittany Spears’s memoir, which won by a landslide. Hence, the popularity contest.

Anyway, Being Henry is a nice story, and his treasured friendships with Ron Howard and John Ritter were especially poignant to read. I’d recommend it, but I would check it out of your local library.

Sorry, Fonzie, I still love you and hope you come to Philly sometime so I can meet you. Above all, you are a mensch!

XO,

Elisa

My Box of Quotes

Call me crazy, but I think everyone should have a stash of quotes to start their day. Brief words of wisdom from those who came before us or are living in our time can change your attitude, make you smile, and start your day off on the right foot. You can find quotes just about anywhere—calendars, coffee mugs, books, t-shirts, and so on.

I have a box of quotes called “Crush Your Goals.” Inside the box are 40 affirmation cards. I like to go through them and choose one to put by my desk while I am job hunting, writing, or just catching my breath. Sometimes, I switch them out every day. Often, I leave a quote there for the week. However I’m feeling or whatever situation I find myself in, I can find a card in that box encouraging me to just keep going. Here are some examples.

I read this one when I have writer’s block.

“It’s amazing what we can do if we simply refuse to give up.” – Octavia Butler

 

I read this one yesterday after receiving a rejection letter from a job I was interested in.

“Please think of the things in your life that you are proud of, that fulfill you, that make you happy and write them down somewhere, and look at that list every time you feel that you are failing” – Jameela Jamil

 

And when the thought of starting something new overwhelms me…

“I know how it looks. But just start. Nothing is insurmountable.” – Lin-Manuel Miranda

What quotes inspire you? Let me know in the comments.

XO,
Elisa

Extroverted at Home

“Chloe, do you want to go for a walk?”

Chloe looks at me with big eyes and follows me to the front door. Her tail is wagging with excitement.

Chloe, my toy poodle, is the only one home with me during the day. She isn’t much of a conversationalist but always good company.

As an extrovert living at and working from home, I try to get out daily to be people. But on some days when I want to stay indoors, I talk to Chloe about work and books and so forth. After all, she is people to us.

But it’s not the same. And yes, I know the difference. 🙂

Yesterday, I went to a local networking event called Coffee and Conversation. Two things I love the most!

On the enthusiasm meter between feeling meh and being super-excited, my scale read SIGN ME UP!

I didn’t know who would attend, but I didn’t care. I’ve always been good at networking events. I would make new friends; I mean business contacts. When I got there, I was happy to see people I knew. It’s nice to chat with friends first. Friends who don’t care if you had your first cup of coffee yet or not. (I hadn’t).

One friend hugged me, and we chatted about many things, especially jigsaw puzzles (another favorite pastime of mine that we share). I huddled beside my other friend who showed me photos from her son’s wedding. Everything looked beautiful, and I told her so.

And then, the networking officially began. The formal part of the event gives everyone the opportunity to give a 30-second elevator speech. After my spiel, one attendee made a beeline to me, and we talked for a while about her nonprofit. We had a lot in common, and my heart did an internal happy dance.

And then she gave me a hug. She had no idea how much I needed another hug. We are having breakfast next week.

I didn’t really want to leave because there was more people to talk to. However, the weather was getting nasty outside, and I had a few calls to make at home. And Chloe missed me. Plus, everyone else needed to get back to work.

Do I sound needy? I hope not. I do enjoy working from home. When I’m busy, the hours fly by, and I don’t feel the need to go anywhere. But on quiet days, it’s a different story. I think about those water cooler moments where I used to socialize with colleagues while we made our breakfast or grab a doughnut from the break room. While Zoom boxes get the job done, it’s not like sitting in cubicles overhearing the latest gossip and interrupting each other’s conversations.

Weird. I used to hate the interruptions, and sometimes, I actually look forward to them. Because above all, it’s the connections I miss the most. And because, you know…people.

And people who need people are the luckiest people in the world.

Author’s Note: I had no idea how to end this, so I chose Barbra Streisand. 

Are you an extrovert working from home? Or are you an introvert that is thankful COVID changed the way we all work now? Tell me in the comments.

XO,

Elisa

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