Late Summer Book Report

An independent bookstore in Maine. Pictured is a long aisle of books and a stepladder to reach the ones up high. Over the summer, our family vacationed in Bar Harbor, Maine which is known for Acadia National Park. During the day, we hiked and explored Cadillac Mountain, Jordan Pond, and other notable points around the park. At night, I could be found tucked away into one of the many aisles of books at Sherman’s Bookstore, an independent shop that is said to be the oldest bookstore in Maine.

I wanted to be locked up in there for the night so badly, but the staff is quite thorough about checking the stacks to make sure no book lover is left behind. The staff also has a great sense of humor and love of books.

I know this because I came across a step ladder with the following sign posted:

In case you can’t see it, the photo is of my favorite Disney princess, Belle, from Beauty and the Beast, riding a stepladder around a library full of books. There is also a big red circle around it forbidding people to attempt this in real life. LOL!

I can’t be the only one who has always wanted to do this, right? Apparently not because the staff had to make a sign for it. How cool is that?! These are my kind of people.

ANYWAY, I was able to read quite a few books during vacation and the subsequent free time I’ve had on my hands since being laid off. Without further ado, here is my August/September book report.

It Was an Ugly Couch Anyway: And Other Thoughts on Moving Forward
by Elizabeth Passarella

Essay collections are totally my jam when it comes to nonfiction. While I love a good memoir, I find these slices-of-life chapters honest, inspiring, relatable, and, oh so funny. It’s the type of writing style I embrace in this blog, and I love reading other authors who write in a similar fashion. And when the author is a woman of a certain age, I have to celebrate and say I’m all in!

In short, this collection is about a husband and wife navigating change in midlife. They are selling their NYC apartment and want to renovate a new one, which was owned by an elderly neighbor in their same building. In between the planning, the dreaming, the bidding, and the negotiating, she is raising her kids during the pandemic and dealing with her husband’s mysterious illness. I could have done without the Bible references, but it didn’t distract from her stories. Three essays that stood out to me were the time she lost her child in NYC, the time she couldn’t get a hold of her husband, and, of course, the story about that ugly couch. I give this book four stars!


Killers of a Certain Age
by Deanna Raybourn

The best description I read about this book is “Golden Girls meets Kill Bill.” How fun!

I’m not one to read spy novels or anything remotely violent, but I am a sucker for a novel where the four protagonists are women of a certain age (see above review). These women are trained assassins who recently retired from a secret international organization after 40 years of killing bad guys for the greater good. Now, the women find themselves targeted by that same government organization. They don’t know why they have been targeted, but they must keep their wits about them to stay alive. As the book blurb says, “It’s kill or be killed in this action-packed thriller.” The violence is pretty tame, which was a plus for me. Only one character, Billie, is given the whole backstory of how she became an assassin. I wish the other three were given the same treatment, but that did not happen. What I did enjoy was how the author smartly incIuded office politics in their master plan to save themselves. Who can they contact? Who can they trust? How does the organization select its targets? And so on… The story was clever, and a page turner. I give it three and a half stars.


Hey Hun: Sales, Sisterhood, Supremacy, and the Other Lies Behind Multilevel Marketing
by Emily Lynn Paulson

From the minute I heard about this book, I knew I had to read it. I’ve always been intrigued by multilevel marketing (MLM) companies that sell everything from cute leggings to great skincare products and then promise the world to their army of salespeople in return. Primarily women, to be exact.

Written by a woman who moved up the corporate ladder as an immensely successful sales rep for an unnamed skincare company, this book is a behind-the-scenes look at the psychology behind MLMs and the women who dedicate their lives to them. The author shares her experience of how she was first welcomed into the company. From there, she became a sales rep and was strongly encouraged to do whatever it took to recruit more people into the fold. She shares the intense pressure she was under from higher-ups in the company, and the tactics she used to get ahead. In one case, she recruited a friend she knew did not have the money or resources to keep up with her demands, yet still encouraged her to stay the course. The author takes us inside the parties and conferences she attended, where she had to spend money to make money. And while she looked like she was successful on the outside, she was left with a house full of inventory, jeopardized her family finances, and became an alcoholic. It took a huge wake-up call for her to finally call it quits. Her story is both a fascinating and tragic one. I gave it four stars. The only reason I couldn’t give it five is because the company’s name was kept secret throughout the book. It seemed strange to me that the author would withhold that important piece of information after sharing her story. Otherwise, it was such an interesting read.


The MaidBook cover of The Maid, by Nita Prose
by Nita Prose

This book was a big hit last winter. I saw a lot of people talking about it, and I felt major FOMO. I decided to see what all the fuss was about and downloaded it on my Kindle.

Unfortunately, it wasn’t my cup of tea. I know this is going to be an unpopular opinion, but I still don’t know why people thought this book was so great. The main character, Molly, is a socially awkward hotel maid who is likely somewhere on the autism spectrum. With the exception of a few people, she is treated poorly and even bullied by the people she works with and genuinely likes. When Molly finds herself as the prime suspect in the murder of one of the hotel guests, she trusts everyone and appears to walk around completely oblivious that someone may be framing her. This character also frustrated me because at certain points in the book, she had some insightful comments, but then went right back to being clueless. There is also the whole storyline about the grandmother which I won’t get into here, but the end was an unexpected and disturbing eyeroll for me. I’ll be generous and give this book three stars since I did finish it. Don’t waste your money like I did; borrow it from the library instead.


Book cover of Elin Hilderbrand's The Five-Star WeekendThe Five Star Weekend
by Elin Hildebrand

I thought this book had a neat premise. The protagonist, Hollis, is a celebrity food blogger who recently lost her husband in a tragic car accident. Perhaps as part of her grieving process, she decides to invite four friends from different decades of her life to her Nantucket home for the weekend. Each friend brings their own baggage as well as some strong feelings about their friendships with Hollis, but they want to be there for her. What unfolds is what the book blurb calls “a surprising and captivating story about friendship.”

Not only did I enjoy this book, but I also started to think about who I would invite to my own five-star weekend. I imagined my childhood friends meeting the friends I have now and whether they would get along. I’m sure they would, but what stories would they share about me?

I gave this book four and a half stars.    


Book cover for The Big Bang Theory: The Definitive, Inside Story of the Epic Hit SeriesThe Big Bang Theory: The Definitive Inside Story of the Epic Hit Series
by Jessica Radloff

Whenever there is nothing I want to watch on television but I need background noise, I turn on The Big Bang Theory.

True confession: It’s on right now as I’m writing this blog. 🙂

The author covers everything from the real-life romance between the actors who played Leonard and Penny (whose names I can’t remember right now) to how the show was cast and small details and trivia from the show’s ten seasons.

This was a fun and fast read for fans of the show. I give it four stars. 

Phew, that’s a lot of books! And there are more where that came from because Fall is my favorite reading season. A lot of people like summer reading, but I love sitting on my patio with a blanket, a glass of wine, a bonfire, and a good book. Right now, I’m working on my “Ten Before the End of the Year” pile. I have ten more books to read to reach my Goodreads goal of 33 books in 2023. I will share that list with you soon.

So, what are you reading? Tell me in the comments.

XO,
Elisa

Getting Over That Hill

A photo of a walking path in the park. I like to walk in a pretty park across the street from our neighborhood with a two-mile paved walking trail. Every time I walk through, I take deep breaths, enjoy the fresh air, and appreciate the park’s natural beauty. Until I get to this one big hill, and then, I’m miserable. It’s in a part of the trail where the sun beats down on me harshly. The twists and turns make it that much more difficult for me to climb. I plow through, but it’s not my favorite section of the park. And then I remember, what goes up must come down. The rest of the trail from there is basically downhill, and I arrive home feeling relaxed and invigorated.

Today, I didn’t even notice the hill. I was deep in thought about being laid off, my recent job search, and how things are moving along at a snail’s pace. Like that hill, it feels insurmountable. It’s easy to get discouraged. I’m one resume in a large pile on my potential employer’s desk. I have an excellent cover letter that shows my ability to write and think creatively. But, I’m not sure people actually read it or just scan it for my salary requirements. My resume is long at three pages, but it’s a well thought out representation of a successful marketing career so far.

I know, I know. A three page resume is probably too long. I need to cut it down. That’s next week’s project. 

I think it is more productive to attend networking events and ask people out for coffee or lunch to pick their brains. I love this part of the job search. There are always ways in which we can help each other, and we do so without hesitation. Last week, I sat down with someone and discovered we were both applying for the same positions. At first, it was a bit awkward, but as we continued to talk, we started rooting for each other to land the job. Building these relationships is so important during any job search. I plan to keep them going after I land a new position. In the meantime, I’m hoping my efforts will get me an “in” somewhere, and soon. Once I get over that hill, it will be downhill from there.

For now, I’m hoping to do some freelance work so I can keep my skills sharp and my creative juices flowing. I’m working on a new website and portfolio so people know where to find me and what I have to offer. And, I’m trying not too stress out too much. That is not an easy task, but I have a list of projects I never got around to this summer. I call it my list of distractions. It’s a solid list that will keep me busy. I need to apply for TSA Pre-Check and get a Real ID in case my new job involves a lot of traveling. I want to clean out and redesign my home office. I’ll very likely be working in a remote, or preferably hybrid, environment and need my office to be much more comfortable and inviting.

There are a bunch of books on my TBR that I’m working my way through when I need a break. And thanks to those long walks and that G-d awful hill, I’ve lost 12 lbs already and will keep working my program until I get back to a healthier weight.

And thankfully, the Ultimate Blog Challenge is the writing project I need to keep on creating for and connecting with those who read it and my fellow bloggers. I’m looking forward to it!

XO,

Elisa

Where Ya Been?!

“How come you haven’t written a blog post lately?”

“What books are you reading?

“Where ya been?”

I’m getting these questions a lot lately, so I thought it was time for an update. It’s been a hot minute since I’ve written anything new here. But I can’t say there hasn’t been anything to write about. If you follow me on Facebook, you already know my husband and I found ourselves unemployed this summer. This has put our household into what can only be described as Life Without A Manual on steroids.

Every day, we are updating and sending out resumes, writing cover letters, networking with others, and managing our stress levels. Our daily lives of running errands, checking in with our children, keeping up with the dishes and laundry, and helping our parents has stayed the same. This new normal has brought on a whole new level of busyness to our days, and sadly for me, writing blog posts had to take a backseat. But, now that we are settling into a routine, I’ll post more often. (Stay tuned for the 31 day Ultimate Blog Challenge starting October 1st).

While there are tons of webinars, books, and articles to read about how to conduct a job search, it’s the emotional toll that no one manual can cover. Luckily, I have my therapist on speed dial these days to help me navigate the anxiety and uncertainty. What I know for sure is that this situation is a blip. We are going to be fine, and I am confident we will find new positions soon.

For now, we wake up at 6 am (ok, sometimes 7 am), have breakfast, walk the dog, make our to-do lists, settle into our home offices, drink lots of coffee, and look for new jobs. We talk about the opportunities that come our way and whether they are a good fit. We encourage each other to do our best, celebrate successes, and lift each other up when things don’t go as we had hoped. Sundays are extra special around here because we file our weekly unemployment claims together over a glass of white wine. It’s our new date night.

Romantic, right?! 🙂

And throughout all of this, we are incredibly grateful for so many things, and I want to make mention of them here.

Friends and Family

From our parents, siblings, and kids to our aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends, everyone has been so supportive. Whether it is introducing us to someone who might be able to help, offering to look at our resumes, reminding us that we are both marketable and worthy, treating us to an Eagles game, or just checking in, we are lucky to have each and every one of them in our lives.

One day, I called one of my closest friends and asked her to do me big a favor. I was feeling all the love and support coming at me, but I needed something different. Every day I wasn’t working blurred together into the next. I was feeling what Pink Floyd would refer to as comfortably numb. I was unfocused, unproductive, and exhausted which is the complete opposite of who I am under normal circumstances. So, I asked her to give me a pep talk to snap me out of it and get my ass in gear. She happily obliged.

It takes a village to get through these tough times. I am forever grateful for our village.

Networking

The last time I looked for a job, LinkedIn was a huge help. Now, it is our new best friend and sometimes a third wheel at the dinner table. What surprises me most about LinkedIn is how generous people are on the platform. Several former colleagues have written thoughtful recommendations on my page about projects we worked on together. Another friend who is a photographer is taking a new headshot of me for my profile this weekend. I have also reconnected with people who I have admired from a distance who met me for coffee and shared sound advice and plenty of ideas to consider. My husband has felt the same support over LinkedIn, and we both see it as an essential tool to our search.

The funny thing about my LinkedIn network is that about a quarter of my contacts are people I have only met a handful of times in person. There is one woman who sends me job postings on a regular basis. Today, I had lunch with someone I met years ago at seminar where I was a speaker. I’ve also been introduced to people who don’t know me at all, but we were connected by a mutual friend. What a leap of faith to be willing to spend time with someone you’ve never even met before! I’ve had wonderful conversations with those people and hope they continue to happen.

During one of our walks, my husband and I thought back to what job searches looked like when we first started out. Remember when we used to print out and mail resumes and cover letters to potential employers? Who else here looked for a job in the Sunday classified ads section of the newspaper? It’s a whole different world now and for those who don’t think LinkedIn is for them, I encourage you to take a second look. If you are in the middle of a job search, the LinkedIn Premium level is worth the extra money. If not, stick with the free version, post often, and stay in touch with people. You never know how you can be of assistance to others or when you will need help in your own career.

The Little Things

There have been some silver linings over the last few weeks. We vacationed in Bar Harbor, ME and explored Acadia National Park without being tied to our laptops  or worried about deadlines. And there was no vacation hangover to deal with while sorting through tons of emails and playing catch up when we returned.

Also, my reading life has never been better. I finished six titles in August and one so far in September. But that’s a topic for a different blog post.

Maybe the nicest part is being able to take time for some self-care and allow myself to recharge, regroup, and figure out what’s next and what’s best for me. I know I want to do something creative and meaningful in my career. I prefer working in a hybrid situation, but can work on-site or remote. Traveling for work is something I miss and can do more of now that we are empty nesters. I know my dream job is still out there somewhere. I just need to be patient.

And finally, I have time for what I love to do most—writing and blogging. Hopefully, you will keep reading and commenting. Deal? 🙂

XO,

Elisa

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