Are You My Type?

At my age, I know myself pretty well; just don’t put a label on me because it won’t work. I’m a bit of a mutt when it comes to assigning myself to one particular category. This used to cause me a lot of stress and frustration as I deal with dueling personality traits. But now, I’ve accepted it for what it all adds up to – me.


A & B

I am somewhere between a Type A and Type B personality. I am an organized person. I like to be either early or on time when we go places. I set goals and obsess over articles about time management skills and productivity systems. And if that doesn’t clinch it, I have zero patience. Whoever said “patience is a virtue” did not have me in mind.

However, I am also Type B. I am creative and innovative. I would not describe myself as competitive by any means. I focus on the fun and not the scoreboard. I am flexible and mild-mannered (until I lose my patience and then all bets are off). I enjoy conversations with people that are reflective and meaningful. I am proud of the fact that I can be flexible and adaptable to situations when things take an unexpected turn.


So, when it comes to setting goals for myself, both personalities come into play. In my career, I set SMART goals and stretch goals and often refer back to them to make sure I’m on the right track. When I sit down for a performance review, I want to say I accomplished or made progress with each of the goals I set out to do. All of this easily puts me in the Type A category.

As for losing weight, FitBit steps, and Goodreads goals, I’m much softer. Probably because, according to Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies quiz – I’m an Obliger. As I read more about this tendency, I see that it is the intersection of Type A and Type B personalities. I always want to put others before myself (Type B) and do what I can for them (Type A) to make them happy.


As if to add insult to injury, I fluctuate between an ENFP and an ESFP type on the Myers-Briggs Personality test. The difference in that one letter is whether or not I get more excited about concepts and ideas or experiences and actions. Can’t I be both?

To Sum Up

This is all to say that I have a huge list of goals to tackle for 2021. In order to be successful, do I really need to pick a side? Maybe I’ll set a new goal to be a little less of an Obliger, and tap into my Type A traits while keeping what I love about being a solid Type B.

Hmm… I think I’m back to where I started.

How about you? What is your personality type?

6 comments on Are You My Type?

  1. Wyn
    February 14, 2021 at 10:38 am (3 months ago)

    Great post!

  2. Anna Maria Junus
    February 14, 2021 at 10:43 am (3 months ago)

    I don’t think anyone fits solidly into one category. So you’re not alone but you are unique.

  3. Martha
    February 14, 2021 at 2:16 pm (3 months ago)

    I’m definitely A and B mixed together too! Great post.

  4. Nancy
    February 14, 2021 at 5:58 pm (3 months ago)

    love your post…I find myself to be Type A and B, too…and then some. LOL – – I’ve been told all my life I’m too serious. It wasn’t until my mid 30’s did I learn how to have fun and laugh. I never had time to be silly….

  5. Melissa
    February 15, 2021 at 8:03 pm (3 months ago)

    I think Iā€™m a little bit of both too…no shame here! Thanks for another enjoyable post!

    • Elisa Heisman
      February 15, 2021 at 8:20 pm (3 months ago)

      Thanks for reading my blog! šŸ˜€


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